Relationships are blessing from God
Some relationship is so good that you are afraid it will end
some, its just too crappy that you can't wait to end the relationship
some relationship are the type of relationship that you regret of having it
relationship is based on mutual respect, care, and love
All relationships are meant to teach and make us more matured
i'ts very impressive that it is been said that the type of bond an infant had with their caregivers
actually affects their future relationships
that is what called by Attachment styles
there are 3 types of attachment styles
first, the secure attachment style
in this one the baby is having a very nice, stable, consistent relationship with their caregivers
so when these babies grow up, they are more likely to have good relationships, they have the highest level of satisfaction, as well as commitment
second, its the anxious/ambivalent style
in this case, the caregivers are very unpredictable
sometimes they care so much,sometimes they dont care at all
so, when the babies grow up,
they will have desire for good relationship, BUT they are afraid that the feelings
are not reciprocated by their partner.
they get very emotional (angry) when their love is not reciprocated
the last type of attachment is the avoidant type
this is the most kisian type
the baby is avoided, they dont have any nice bond with their caregivers
so when they grow up, they dont really like to get into relationships
and mostly they have never been in love
pity them right?
its not their fault that their parents have to work and causing them such a long term effect
but still, its possible to have working parents and having the secure type of attachment
it depends on the quality of the relationship
why am i saying this?
because i wanna work as well as spending much quality time enough to make my kids have secure attachment styles
insyaAllah.
How we are today is how we are going to be in future
but there is always room for changes
some change for good
some change for bad
hopefully everyone changes for good,
InsyaAllah
p/s: i am suppose to finish my assignmet.
but instead im doing everything else except that
because im so super duper clueless
im stuck halfway
do pray that i'll finish it in time.
:)(:
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